You get what you need (whether you want it or not).

We're on an enforced rest-day here, as I seem to have misplaced my house keys. I've looked everywhere for them, three times, but they have yet to turn up. It's all for the best - my midwife gave me the gears last week about doing too much and not taking care of myself, so a day at home to rest and regroup is probably the best thing I can do for myself. (Well, the best thing short of a whirlwind trip to Hawaii for some beach-lounging, but if a day in my jammies at home is what the universe is offering me, I'll take it!) Edited to add: I found my keys. They were a coat pocket that I had checked quite literally at least six times over the past 24 hours. I think I really was meant to stay home today.

In other "the universe is listening" news, I received an email last night that Elizabeth Pantley has released a new book on napping called "The No-Cry Nap Solution: 
Guaranteed Gentle Ways to Solve All Your Naptime Problems". When the monkey was having so much trouble at bedtime, I bought "The No-Cry Sleep Solution", and it helped us immensely, so I'm really keen to get my hands on a copy of this latest book. At the moment, our nap-time is golden: we have a reasonably firm nap-time, and the monkey and I nap together almost every day (except when we're out too close to nap time and she punks out on me and falls asleep in the stroller or the sling). She sleeps for about an hour and half, giving me half an hour to read or write in bed, and then an hour to nap myself. I find our naps just as essential to my day as they are to hers. I'm interested, however, to see how that will change when we have another baby to consider.

I was talking yesterday, however, with some of the other moms in my neighbourhood playgroup, and the subject of naps was a popular discussion - from the 3-month old who will only sleep in his swing and the 8-month old who sometimes just doesn't want to nap to my monkey who sleeps brilliantly if I'm beside her, but will only nap for half an hour if she's alone in her crib, it seems that most of the moms I know are constantly seeking better naps for their babies.

Here's a short excerpt from "The No-Cry Nap Solution: 
Guaranteed Gentle Ways to Solve All Your Naptime Problems" that explains why naps are so important. I particularly like this bit, as it mentions the importance of us grown-ups taking naps too. Have you had a nap today?

The Volcano Effect: Why Skipping a Nap Results in Meltdown
By Elizabeth Pantley, Author of The No-Cry Nap Solution

From the moment your child wakes in the morning he is slowly using up the benefits of the previous night’s sleep. He wakes up totally refreshed, but as the hours pass, little by little, the benefits of his sleep time are used up, and an urge to return to sleep begins to build. When we catch a child at in-between stages and provide naps, we build up his reservoir of sleep-related benefits, allowing him a “fresh start” after each sleep period.

As shown on the sleep chart below, as children age, the length of time that they can stay “happily awake” increases. A newborn can only be awake one or two hours before tiredness sets in, whereas a two year old can last five to seven hours before craving some down time for a nap. When children are pushed beyond their biological awake time span without a break that’s when they become fatigued, fussy and unhappy.

Age              “Happily Awake” span of time between naps
Newborn          1 – 2 hours
6 month old         2 – 3 hours
12 month old         3 – 4 hours
18 month old         4 – 6 hours
2 year old           5 – 7 hours
3 year old           6 – 8 hours
4 year old           6 – 12 hours


As the day progresses, and the sleep pressure builds, a child becomes fussier, whinier, and less flexible. He has more crying spells, more tantrums, and less patience. He loses concentration and the ability to learn and retain new information. The scientific term for this process is “homeostatic sleep pressure” or “homeostatic sleep drive” . . . I call it The Volcano Effect. We’ve all seen the effects of this on a baby or child, as it is often as clear as watching a volcano erupt; nearly everyone has observed a fussy child and thought or said, “Someone needs a nap!”

As a child progresses through his day, his biology demands a sleep break to regroup, refresh and repair. If a child does not get this break the problem intensifies: the rumblings and tremors become an outright explosion. Without a nap break, the homeostatic pressure continues building until the end of the day, growing in intensity – like a volcano – so that a child becomes overtired, wired and unable to stop the explosion. The result is an intense bedtime battle with a cranky, overtired child, or an infant who won’t fall asleep no matter how tired you know he is.

Even more, a child who misses naps day after day builds a sleep deprivation that launches her into the volcano stage much easier and quicker. If she is missing naps and also lacking the right quality or quantity of nighttime sleep…watch out!

Newborns and young babies have a much shorter span in which their sleep pressure builds. They rapidly reach the peak of their volcano in one to three hours. This is why newborns sleep throughout the day, and why young babies require two or three or four daily naps. Over time, as a baby’s sleep cycle matures he will be able to go longer periods between sleeps. It is not until age 4 or 5 that a child is able to go happily through the entire day without a nap, and sleep research suggests that even through adulthood a mid-day nap or rest break is extremely beneficial in reducing the pressure in all human beings.

The Volcano Effect is not something reserved only for children! This biological process affects adults as well. Understanding this can help you interpret what is really going on in your home at the end of a long day, when children are fussy and parents are grumpy – resulting in a whole mountain range of volcanoes.

Sleep pressure can be exaggerated by environmental issues such as the previous poor night’s sleep, on-going sleep deprivation, or daily stress. What's more, each person’s moodiness feeds off the others, causing contagious crankiness. And then you’ll find yourself losing patience and saying to your child, “I’m sorry, honey. Mommy’s just tired right now.” (This is a very telling explanation we don’t often stop to analyze.)

This Volcano concept brings to light one more important point: Quality naps can make up for lost night sleep – but extra nighttime sleep does not make up for missed naps, due to the homeostatic sleep pressure concept. Therefore, no matter how your child sleeps at night – great sleeper or poor sleeper -- his daily naps are critically important to release the rising sleep pressure.

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This is a copyrighted excerpt from The No-Cry Nap Solution: Guaranteed Gentle Ways to Solve All Your Naptime Problems by Elizabeth Pantley. (McGraw-Hill, December 2008).